It’s one thing if a guy likes you, but is he really into you? Is he serious and want a committed relationship? The clues to knowing if he’s genuinely into you aren’t the big, showy gestures you might think. So stop keeping score on flowers, gifts, and fancy dinners.
Instead, pay attention to the little things, especially your potential boyfriend’s behavior both on dates and in between. Here are some indicators that he is serious.
1. He Calls for no Reason
If your guy’s really into you, he doesn’t wait five days after a date to call you. Instead, he calls you whenever he feels like it, even if it’s just to say hi and see how your day is going. If you’ve been dating a lot of players recently, this new, emotionally available behavior may seem startling. Don’t criticize or judge it. Instead, enjoy it!
2. He Actively Seeks out your Company
Not only does your guy call if he’s really into you, but he also makes an effort to see you regularly. And it’s not just about having a hot date on Saturday night. When a guy genuinely likes you, he wants to spend time with you, regardless of what you do together. So if your cutie invites you to hang out and watch movies at his place, get coffee after work, or meet at the Laundromat on Sunday night so you can keep each other company while washing your clothes, chances are good that he’s into you. If you feel comfortable, reciprocate by seeking out his company.
3. He Makes Time for you in his Life
Even in our overly scheduled modern-day lives, if a guy’s into you, he makes time for you. So if he calls to say he’s going away on a business trip for a few days but would like to see you before he goes, wants to talk while he’s away, or is intent on making plans once he returns, all signs point to the fact that he’s honestly into you. Make sure you make time for your man, regardless of your own busy schedule.
4. His Friends know about You
Chances are, you’ve dated the kind of guy who showers you with attention and gifts and also chases you incessantly, but never introduces you to the other people in his life. While this behavior may be confusing, the truth is that when a guy is really into you, he includes you in his entire life. That means his friends know about you. And not just how hot or sexy you are, but how interesting, funny, and amazing you are. As time goes on, he not only tells his friends about you, but he introduces you to them and makes you a part of his inner circle. Show your appreciation by making an effort to get to know his friends.
5. He Takes the Time to get to know your Friends
Not only does a guy who’s into you share his friends with you, but he takes the time to get to know and appreciate your friends. And while a player might seize the opportunity to flirt with your girlfriends, a guy who’s really into you shows genuine interest in your gal pals while reserving his affection for you only. Let him know that you appreciate him by returning his affections.
6. He Maintains eye Contact
When you’re with your sweetie, a sure sign that he’s into you is his ability to comfortably make and maintain eye contact. If a guy has ulterior motives or just isn’t interested in who you really are, he won’t bother looking you in the eye. So if your cutie catches and keeps your gaze, smile and return his gaze, enjoying the fact that he’s really into you.
7. He Leans in when you’re Talking
Not only will your man maintain eye contact if he’s into you, but his body language will be equally telling. If he leans in when you talk, keeps his torso facing you, maintains eye contact, and doesn’t cross his arms and legs defensively, he’s showing you his emotional availability and interest through his body. Be sure to practice the same kind of physical communication with your own body language.
8. He Listens
If your potential boyfriend’s body language tells you that he’s into you, the next sign to look for is how well he listens and responds to you. Is the conversation always all about him or does he ask you questions, seek out your opinion, and genuinely seem interested in what you have to say? When a guy’s really into you, he not only makes you a part of the conversation, but he also asks for your input, listens intently, and responds appropriately. Let your love interest know that you’re interested by listening and responding to him, as well.
9. He Regularly Touches You
While a player may engage in inappropriate levels of PDA, a guy who’s really into you may be less demonstrative. However, that doesn’t mean he won’t touch you at all. In fact, if you’re dating someone who’s really into you, he’ll routinely touch your arm when he’s talking, stroke your back reassuringly, and hold your hand when the time is right. These displays of affection show respect, intimacy, and interest. If you feel comfortable, let him know you’re interested by gently touching him in a similar fashion from time to time.
10. He Takes an Interest in your Interests
A surefire way to know if your man sees a future with you is if he takes an interest in your interests. Even if it’s something that doesn’t appeal to him, like Pilates, painting, or your Portuguese language lessons, he’ll encourage you to pursue your interests and ask you about them. Be sure to return the favor and engage him about his own interests. So there you have it – ten surefire signs that the guy you’re dating is really into you. Once you educate yourself on the signals that matter, you’ll be better equipped to see and sift through the superficial players in your environment and then identify the genuine gems worth dating.